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If you could travel with your love and get married just the two of you in a magical setting right now, would you?
It could be tempting, but then tomorrow you might feel completely differently and want that big celebration for 200 loved ones, and a Hora so crowded your dress gets trampled on, and your face glistens with sweaty glee!
Such a tough time – and you must allow yourself to feel however you’re feeling.
And no one can tell you what that feeling should be.
You’re allowed to feel sad, lost, excited or anything else on the scale of Coronacoaster emotions.
Then take a deep breath and remember that the reality this pandemic is awakening some of us to, is that life DOES throw us curveballs.
How we manage them is a benchmark for how we manage life.
The current moment is a real test for us to find out how flexible we can be, and how we can manage, at a time when our lives are so deeply disrupted.
Managing the uncertainty
Times of uncertainty make us feel incredibly disempowered – and that’s not how anyone wants to feel.
Under normal circumstances, being a bride- or groom-to-be is often a very empowering experience – we get to make plans to create the day of our dreams, and while all that choice can be overwhelming, it’s also exhilarating.
Now, the situation has been flipped on its head. It feels like everything’s been taken out of our control as we’re forced to radically reimagine what our weddings might look like.
Adding insult to injury, a lot of us are also facing financial struggles we’d never have imagined.
A shift in perspective
To regain a sense of control and empowerment in your life – and your wedding plans – it will take a shift in perspective. And coming to terms with what we can and cannot control at this time is in itself an act of empowerment.
The silver lining in all of this? Life’s not going to stop throwing those curveballs, and dealing with them as a team is a skill you’ll need to have in your toolbox throughout your life together as a couple.
Learning to work together with your partner to get through a crisis sooner rather than later can only set your marriage up for success.
I hope you’re feeling ok. I have opened up my Brides Club for you to benefit from it for free for 30 days if you feel you need advice or someone to chat to. Just click here and you’ll be inside in moments.
Wishing you so much love and endless amounts of only good things.
Love Karen x