Chris will be marrying Ariel on 6th June 2021 in Chris’ Aunt and Uncle’s front yard. Click here to read all of Chris’ planning posts to date.
THREE FACTS: (1) Ariel proposed to Chris in November 2020 (2) Chris swiped right on Ariel and the rest is history! (3) Chris + Ariel will be having an intimate 10-person wedding.
When I told my mother (a hippie Jew who married an Irish Catholic community organizer) we were working on our Ketubah, she told me that the thought of a document proving she had been sold to a man did not fit in with her feminist sensibilities. For this reason, they did not have one for their interfaith marriage in 1982. I explained to her that although I see where she is coming from, it is traditional to fight in front of your Ketubah. Writing it together is a way to craft a reminder of what is important to us when we don’t like each other very much or when the road ahead seems too hard to bear.
My mom thought this reframing was beautiful. With that lofty goal weighing heavily on our shoulders, during a weekend away on the Cape, in the dead of winter, looking out onto a frozen lake, we began to craft this sacred document: part love letter, part promise, part aspiration, part reminder.