THREE FACTS: (1) Rebekkah and Jakob were introduced by mutual friends while Jakob, who is from Germany, was in Rebekkah’s hometown of Calgary on a specialized work visa. (2) They are getting married at a beautiful mountain resort in a national park in Alberta, Canada! (3) Rebekkah is a “very satisfied member” (her words) of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club!
Coping With Wedding Planning Stress
Five months till my fiancee and I smash our glass! Crazy how these major life events are a whirlwind of thinking and planning and anxiety and stress only to be over in 12 hours. That’s what I keep telling myself anyway, “It’s just one day, Bekkah you got this”, “You’re A type enough to pull this off properly!”
Image by Lilly Photography from Jane and Adam’s wedding
Losing My Beloved Dog
For me enjoying an event that I am throwing means planning the shit out of it. Unfortunately, tragedy hit our home over the holidays when my beloved dog Zus passed away. With this great pain I had completely shelved all our wedding planning so I could take my time to grieve and not try and be deciding on things in a mourning headspace. Thankfully I jumped the gun in December and the fall and got a lot of the things I need to order ordered so they are in my possession already.
Image by Kathy Thomas from Carly and Seth’s wedding
Sending invitations, receiving drama
Now that I am finding my grief more tolerable, I’m diving back into wedding planning with my first order of business being to send out invitations. My fiancà©’s family is all in Europe, and a lot of my friends are living in Israel or the United States, and different provinces here in Canada. So, with all our international guests as well as my wedding being on a Thursday in the summer, we decided to send out invitations early so people would have lots of time to plan, book hotel rooms, etc.
Well, with that came a tidal wave of kvetching family members who had to either chew me out for our wedding venue having expensive accommodations, or they ripped me a new one for not inviting other family members. I mention this because I can imagine there are a few other brides and grooms out there that must deal with similar or G-d forbid worse family stresses. For me I’ve had to adopt a mindset that ignored all whining nonsense so I can focus on what’s important, which is marring my Jakob.
Image by Ran Bergman from Tom and Matan’s wedding
What I Am Grateful For
During all the stresses I force myself to remember all my blessings I have to be grateful for. I remember that my one great grandmother was fleeing Nazis in France shortly after her nuptials. Another was married to the love of her life in the ghetto so they could get a bed to share to escape the cold of sleeping on the winter streets of Warsaw. Compared to the struggles of our ancestors I have no problems, when I look at my situation no matter if it’s budget related or the loss of my beloved furry best friend, I see that everything is beseder.
Image by Herschel Gutman from Milen and Arad’s wedding
What Comes Next
To end things on a fun note, the DJ that I ended up booking turned out to be the same guy that DJed my bat mitzvah and both my brothers’ bar mitzvahs. How hilarious is that? I got a returning simcha discount, which I was rather stoked about.
My next challenge is designing my chuppah and translating a Jewish wedding program into German, wish me luck!
Image by Haim Afriat from Hannah and Joshua’s wedding
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