THREE FACTS: THREE FACTS: (1) Alexandra and Ian are planning an intimate black-tie destination wedding for 60 of their nearest and dearest in Puglia, Italy. (2) Alexandra is Jewish, and Ian is in the process of converting to Judaism. (3) Alexandra is a member of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club!
In a turn of events that will surprise no one due to what the last month has looked like under quarantine, we had to postpone our wedding that was to be on 5-10-20. It was the perfect date but it was not meant to be. Everything was ready to go. We just had to do a few more small things like write our wedding vows, buy gifts for the parents and the bridesmaids, get my wedding dress fitted, and accessorize Ian’s tuxedo.
While it’s very disappointing to have to pull the brakes, we have been trying to focus on the bright sides. What’s nice about being so far along in the process is that we are way ahead of the game for next year. It also gives us time to think of new fun details to add to the wedding.
We are hoping to have our wedding moved to mid-May 2021. I still worry that might not be far enough out but we are trying to remain hopeful. It feels in some way selfish to plan a new wedding in the midst of a pandemic but we are still looking forward to our wedding in Italy. Plus we’re happy if it gives our guests something exciting to look forward to post-plague.
I think many of us who are rescheduling and cancelling weddings feel some guilt. People are dying, but we also had exciting plans that had to be changed. Even if you don’t know anyone who has gotten sick yet this time is stressful for all of us.
Finding a new date was not too difficult but handling my disappointment was another story. We sent out beautiful Crane invitations from Needle in a Haystack that now are sort of useless. I remember being so excited when we mailed the invitations. I don’t think we will mail invitations this time. I think we will probably do an email this time.
The first thing we did when we decided to postpone the wedding was send out an email to tell our guests that there would be a change of plans. Since we had formal invitations, it didn’t feel right sending out something that looked sloppy, but luckily the fabulous Charlotte Hart helped us design a fantastic postponement card to match the invitation. We made it clear on the card that we did not know what the plan was yet.
With our wedding so close things like our ketubah had already been printed. When we knew we were changing the date we quickly contacted our ketubah designer, the amazing Rachel Jackson. She was extremely accommodating. She suggested that she just focus on the frame around the ketubah for now, which is a perfect idea. She is creating a beautiful collaged and screen printed ketubah for us. She has been amazing through this whole process.
A fun way to look at this date change is that we get to enjoy this moment of engagement for a bit longer. It also gives us time to reschedule events we had to move like the bachelorette and bachelor parties. Ultimately, I am very excited for what the next year will bring. 2021 is going to be much better than 2020!
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Alexandra and Ian’s Wedding Vendors booked so far:
Venue – La Corte Dei Messapi
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