THREE FACTS: THREE FACTS: (1) Mimi and Andrew met online in 2013. (2) Mimi is a flight attendant and writes her own travel and beauty blog on the side (3) Andrew proposed to Mimi, who at the time was nearing the completion of her conversion to Judaism, at the top of Masada – wow!
My Big Day Without You
Celebrating an exciting time in your life is always bittersweet when it’s peppered with the reality of one of your favourite and most loved people not being here – weather it’s a grandparent, a friend, or in my case, my father.
After losing my dad, I remember vividly imagining future key parts of my life and wondering how I would get through them without him. A huge part of the grieving process was the reality of imagining future life situations where my dad would be missed more than ever. My future wedding day was one of them. I was desperately sad that I’d missed the opportunity to have my father walk me down the aisle, and even more so that he wouldn’t actually meet my future husband or share in the journey with me.
Image by Miki Studios from Abbie and Alistair‘s wedding
Image by Reportage Gallery from Orly and Zak‘s wedding
A few years after losing him, I met Andrew. Very quickly I realised how much my father would have adored him, and I know that the feeling would have been mutual. Andrew reminds me of him in so many ways – he has a very cheeky sense of humour, a calm and kind nature, and I know they would have had so much to talk about – they both love sport and are keen golfers. Thinking like that brings me joy, and I often imagine how lovely it would have been to watch my dad and Andrew on the golf course together. Something my dad would have loved.
Of course, sadly there’s no way of bringing him back to be with us for our wedding day, so instead I have peppered our wedding day with lots of little nods to my dad.
Image by Paul Toeman Photographers from Amy and Adam‘s wedding
Little touches about you
I’ve decided to use his wedding ring (melted down into my own size) for my wedding ring under the chuppah. Our rabbi will of course speak of him during our ceremony. Our venue has a beautiful old brick fireplace where I will display photos of those in our family who could not be with us, in amongst the flowers, so that we see their smiling faces amongst us all day long.
For table favours, I decided to donate to the British Heart Foundation and I am giving each guest a little pin which they can pop on, in remembrance of my dad.
Image by Massimiliano Morlotti from Leah and Tyler‘s wedding
Then once the party starts, I have made sure to include some of his favourite songs for us to dance to. I know we will feel him there with us, in different way to what we would have wanted, but he will be with us and all around us, none the less… and I know that these little touches on the day will bring a lot of happiness to everyone who loved him.
Image by Nadine Van Biljon from Nina and Matt‘s wedding
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