Mazal Tov on your engagement! There’s so much to do before the big day that it’s nice to have it all condensed into one neat checklist. I’ve laid out the biggest tasks that need to be taken care of in chronological order further down the page, but first thing’s first – you need to pick a date!
DATES TO AVOID FOR A JEWISH WEDDING IN 2022, 2023 + 2024
Below you can see all the dates that should be avoided for your Jewish wedding in 2022, 2023 and 2024, according to the Jewish calendar.
Jewish Wedding dates to avoid in 2022
Avoid Purim: 16th March (sunset) – 17th March 2022
Avoid from Passover: 15th April (sunset) – 23rd April 2022. Traditionally, no Jewish weddings take place between Passover and Shavuot except on Lag B’ Omer (that’s the date I chose for my wedding in 2013!) which in 2022 falls on 18th May (from sunset) to 19th May 2022
Avoid the 3 weeks leading up to and including Tisha B’av: 17th July (from sunset) to 7th August 2022. Jewish marriages are not allowed during the period of three weeks leading up and including to the Fast of Tisha B’av
Avoid Rosh Hashana: 25th September (from sunset) to 27th September 2022
Avoid Yom Kippur: 4th October (from sunset) to 5th October 2022
Avoid Succot: 9th October (from sunset) to 16th October 2022
Avoid Simchat Torah: 28th October (from sunset) to 29th October 2022
Jewish Wedding dates to avoid in 2023
Avoid Purim: 6th March (sunset) – 8th March
Avoid from Passover: 5th April (sunset) – 13th April. Traditionally, no Jewish weddings take place between Passover and Shavuot except on Lag B’ Omer (that’s the date I chose for my wedding in 2013!) which in 2023 falls on 8th May (from sunset) to 9th May 2023
Avoid the 3 weeks leading up to and including Tisha B’av: 6th July (from sunset) to 27th July 2023. Jewish marriages are not allowed during the period of three weeks leading up and including to the Fast of Tisha B’av
Avoid Rosh Hashana: 15th September (from sunset) to 17th September 2023
Avoid Yom Kippur: 24th September (from sunset) to 25th September 2023
Avoid Succot: 29th September (from sunset) to 6th October 2023
Avoid Simchat Torah: 6th October (from sunset) to 8th October 2023
Jewish Wedding dates to avoid in 2024
Avoid Purim: 23rd March (sunset) – 24th March
Avoid from Passover: 22nd April (sunset) – 30th April. Traditionally, no Jewish weddings take place between Passover and Shavuot except on Lag B’ Omer (that’s the date I chose for my wedding in 2013!) which in 2024 falls on 25th May (from sunset) to 26th May 2024
Avoid the 3 weeks leading up to and including Tisha B’av: 23rd July (from sunset) to 13th August 2024. Jewish marriages are not allowed during the period of three weeks leading up and including to the Fast of Tisha B’av
Avoid Rosh Hashana: 2nd October (from sunset) to 4th October 2024
Avoid Yom Kippur: 11th October (from sunset) to 12th October 2024
Avoid Succot: 16th October (from sunset) to 23rd October 2024
Avoid Simchat Torah: 24th October (from sunset) to 25th October 2024
12 Month Wedding Planning Monthly Checklist
So now you are in the know about dates, let’s lay out the biggest tasks that need to be taken care of in chronological order. I’ve used a 12 month timeline as that’s the length of the average UK and USA engagement. It’s just a guide obviously – I myself only had 6 months to plan my wedding and others will have a lot longer.
9-12 months before the wedding
- Create a wedding folder and a Pinterest board and start collating ideas for the style of your wedding that appeals to you.
- Determine your budget and work out how expenses will be divided.
- Reserve a date (see Jewish wedding dates to avoid at the bottom of the post) and send out a save the date. This could be beautifully designed card or e-card and set the tone for your event, or it could be a simple beautifully worded email.
- Start to envision your ceremony. Do you want it to be long and symbolic or short and sweet? Do you want to include all the traditions or just a select few?
- If you have a particular rabbi in mind, book him or her once you’ve decided on a date. If you haven’t got one in mind, find a rabbi or officiant who suits your style and spirit.
- Start a guest list and work out an idea of the number of guests you’ll have as this will generate the most accurate cost estimates.
- Brainstorm ceremony and reception ideas and book a venue.
- Decide on whether you want a wedding planner, and if you do, hire one.
- Research photographers, videographers and entertainment. The really good ones can get booked up early so be sure to commit when you find a supplier you love.
- Ensure that any band or DJ you book plays Jewish wedding music.
- Research caterers and decide if it’s important for you to have a kosher menu or a non-meat ‘Jewish friendly’ ‘inoffensive’ menu.
- Start thinking about your wedding dress and enjoy the experience of shopping and finding your dress!
