Orli will be marrying Ben on 22nd July 2021 in Orli’s parents’ garden, UK. Click here to read all Orli’s planning posts to date.
THREE FACTS: (1) Orli and Ben met on Jswipe. (2) Orli & Ben will marry in an intimate setting in Orli’s parents’ garden (3) Orli is a member of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club!
A couple of days after I sent off my blog previous post we made the difficult and heartbreaking decision to postpone for the second time and to find what we hope and pray is our final wedding day. After all third time lucky. We met with the caterer and ran through the options that we had with a wedding on the 30 May with the restrictions lifting alongside the roadmap. This would mean we could have 30 people but there would be no dancing and social distancing in place. Whilst we had accepted only being able to have thirty people, we had thought that we would be allowed to dance and to celebrate with our closest 30 people or 28 including us.
As we discussed our options with the caterer, I broke down, this isn’t the wedding that I had planned, this isn’t anything I could have imagined and as I looked over at my fiancé I knew in my heart we needed a new date. A later date after the 21st of June when the restrictions were due to be lifted if everything goes to plan. From the moment we decided on our new and late date I have started to allow myself to feel excited, this feeling is quickly followed by fear and anxiety. But that moment of excitement shows me that it was the right thing to do to push it back one final time.
To all those brides who have postponed, my heart goes out to you. It is such a difficult decision and one that I have certainly struggled with. There are days when I am asked by how wedding planning is going and I burst into tears because I can’t possibly bring myself to think about our wedding. There are other days when I get excited and start thinking about how I’m having my hair. To all those brides who are currently planning weddings and who face the same worries and fears and lack of certainty that I am going to, I send all my thoughts out to you.
Ever since getting engaged I’ve been told how exciting and stressful it is planning a wedding, but adding in a pandemic and planning for a wedding that you don’t know if it’s going to go ahead and how it’s going to look on the day and if your best friends will see you walk down the aisle that’s a whole level of anxiety and stress that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. On the harder days hug your fiancé’s closer and know better days are coming. For those brides in the same position as me, know that when that day comes it be so special and it will mean so much more as you have waited. Until the day I walk down the aisle I know it won’t feel real to me, but I’m sure that as we get closer to our day the excitement will slowly build.
Catch you at my next post.
Orli is teaching a weekly yoga session for our Brides Club members. Click here to join.
Click here to read all Orli’ planning posts to date.
Orli & Ben’s Wedding Vendors booked so far:
Wedding Planner – Susannah Raye
Videographer – PR films
Chazzan – Jonny Turgel
Flowers – Blue Sky Flowers {offers 10% discount to all members of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club}
Band – The Function Band
Bride’s dress – found and fitted at The Wedding Gallery {appointment fee waived (normally £30) to all members of Smashing The Glass’s Brides Club}
Caterer – Philip Small
Photographer – Promise
Videographer – AT Motion
Chazan — Eitan Freilich
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