THREE FACTS: (1) Adam proposed to Charlotte on holiday in Cyprus (2) Charlotte and Adam met at work in London (3) Charlotte is a member of STG Brides Club!
As the clock turned midnight and we started 2021 I looked to Adam and said, we’re getting married this year, hopefully!
Staying home to protect ourselves, our family and our friends we start to think about the next few months and what they’re going to bring. With only 3 months to go until our original Wedding Day we are trying to keep ourselves motivated and keep planning and preparing as much as we can. Whilst we are slowly getting things to do ticked off the list there is a constant nagging thought on both our minds of, but what if we can’t get married on our chosen date?
A note to all the brides and couples in limbo not knowing if their wedding day will go ahead or be what they expected that I try to remind myself of, frequently.
This is hard, really hard. It’s not the shiny, happy count down it’s meant to be and all we can do is wait. We know that love cannot be cancelled and that our marriages will happen but we don’t know when. The pandemic has shown us that anything can happen and we don’t have control over it all. We have all been affected by the pandemic in different ways and have managed our stress and upset in different ways but the one constant is the support we have and we know, we are not alone.
Through adversity we become stronger and more determined, the support we have from family, friends and Smashing the Glass is amazing and we have all united to support each other in this unusual and crazy time. Though we might, we don’t have to feel guilty for feeling the way we do about our weddings, we are all thinking of everyone else in the same position or going through something worse but being sad about our own situations is allowed.
Focus on the small ‘stresses’ of what will the rings look like, what handbag do I choose, should I order the cake for 150 people and eat my sorrows away? Focus on what we can control and when we can, we will marry our person.
We are not just planning a wedding that we don’t know if it will happen, we are planning a wedding that we don’t when it will happen while not being allowed to see our mums, dads, siblings, grandparents and friends. We can do this! Take a moment, take a breath and remember that we will get married. Cry if you want to cry, scream if you want to scream but know that you are not alone. Weddings in person or weddings over zoom it will be spectacular and all this stress, sadness and anger will be a thing of the past.
April 25th 2021, our wedding day, hopefully.
I have come to hate the word hopefully and I hate adding to the end of that sentence, I don’t want to be hopeful, I want to know it will be. Every time we speak about the wedding it ends with, hopefully. Whilst we try to remain hopeful and positive it’s easier said than done and I find myself trying to avoid conversations about the wedding.
81 days to go! (Hopefully!!)
Until next time. X
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