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Today I have a double dose of gorgeous grooms with Simon and Nik, who held their Jew-ish wedding at Sunbeam Studios in Ladbroke Grove not far from London’s famous Portobello Road. This super cool venue is a photographic studio by day (Mario Testino shot this Vogue cover there) and holds weddings and events by night. The building was originally the UK’s first ever purpose built car factory and is the perfect blend of classic historical and creative cool.
Their wedding theme was inspired by the venue (always a great starting point for a theme!), in particular, its monochrome interior. Yes, these two limited their colour palette exclusively to black and white, and they weaved it through every last detail including their entire outfits, and that of their guests, which I must say is really effective! Black and white is such a chic theme and relatively simple and easy to work with, and these guys let their creative juices run wild with statement details like their extraordinary black and white wedding cake! It’s by Choccywoccydoodah and it will set your taste buds and creative sparks alight. Honestly folks, I have yet to post anything quite like it on the pages of Smashing The Glass – I can’t wait for you to see it!
And with Simon being a fashion blogger (check out his site, The Very Simon G) it wasn’t surprising that the two grooms looked super hot in their haute couture black and white ensembles, my personal favourite detail being Simon’s studded Christian Louboutin shoes. Super epic.
The report today is written by both of our grooms. Enjoy!
Mazal Tov on your engagement! There’s so much to do before the big day that it’s nice to have it all condensed into one neat checklist. I’ve laid out the biggest tasks that need to be taken care of in chronological order further down the page, but first thing’s first – you need to pick a date!
Dates to avoid for a Jewish wedding in 2017, 2018, 2019 + 2020
Below you can see all the dates that should be avoided for your Jewish wedding in 2017, 2018, 2019 and 2020, according to the Jewish calendar.
Jewish Wedding dates to avoid in 2017
Avoid Purim: 11th March 2017 (from sunset) – 12th March 2017
Avoid from Passover: (10th April 2017 [from sunset] to 18th April 2017) to Shavuot: (30th May 2017 [from sunset] to 1st June 2017). Traditionally, no Jewish weddings take place between Passover and Shavuot except on Lag B’ Omer (that’s the date I chose for my wedding in 2013!) which in 2017 falls on 13th May (from sunset) to 14th May 2017.
Avoid the 3 weeks leading up to and including Tisha B’av: 10th July 2017 (from sunset) to 1st August 2017. Jewish marriages are not allowed during the period of three weeks leading up and including to the Fast of Tisha B’av.
Avoid Rosh Hashana: 20th September (from sunset) to 22nd September 2017
Avoid Yom Kippur: 29th September (from sunset) to 30th September 2017
Avoid Succot: 4th October (from sunset) to 11th October 2017
Avoid Simchat Torah: 12th October (from sunset) to 13th October 2017
Jewish Wedding dates to avoid in 2018
Avoid Purim: 28th February 2018 (from sunset) – 1st March 2018
Avoid from Passover: (30th March 2018 [from sunset] to 7th April 2018) to Shavuot: (19th May 2018 [from sunset] to 21st May 2018). Traditionally, no Jewish weddings take place between Passover and Shavuot except on Lag B’ Omer (that’s the date I chose for my wedding in 2013!) which in 2018 falls on 2nd May (from sunset) to 3rd May 2018.
Avoid the 3 weeks leading up to and including Tisha B’av: 29th June 2018 (from sunset) to 22nd July 2018. Jewish marriages are not allowed during the period of three weeks leading up and including to the Fast of Tisha B’av.
Avoid Rosh Hashana: 9th September (from sunset) to 11th September 2018
Avoid Yom Kippur: 18th September (from sunset) to 19th September 2018
Avoid Succot: 23rd September (from sunset) to 30th September 2018
Avoid Simchat Torah: 1st October (from sunset) to 2nd October 2018
Jewish Wedding dates to avoid in 2019
Avoid Purim: March 20th, 2019 (at sunset) to March 21st 2019
Avoid from Passover: (April 19th 2019 [from sunset] to April 27th 2019) to Shavuot: (June 8th 2019 [from sunset] to June 10th 2019). Traditionally, no Jewish weddings take place between Passover and Shavuot except on Lag B’ Omer (that’s the date I chose for my wedding in 2013!) which in 2019 falls on May 22nd [from sunset] to May 23rd.
Avoid the 3 weeks leading up to and including Tisha B’av: July 19th 2019 (from sunset) to August 11th 2019. Jewish marriages are not allowed during the period of three weeks leading up and including to the Fast of Tisha B’av.
Avoid Rosh Hashana: September 29th (from sunset) to October 1st 2019
Avoid Yom Kippur: October 8th (from sunset) to October 9th 2019
Avoid Succot: October 13th (from sunset) to October 20th 2019
Avoid Simchat Torah: October 21st (from sunset) to October 22nd 2019
Jewish Wedding dates to avoid in 2020
Avoid Purim: March 9th, 2020 (at sunset) to March 10th 2020
Avoid from Passover: (April 8th 2020 [from sunset] to April 16th 2020) to Shavuot: (May 28th 2020 [from sunset] to May 30th 2020). Traditionally, no Jewish weddings take place between Passover and Shavuot except on Lag B’ Omer (that’s the date I chose for my wedding in 2013!) which in 2020 falls on May 11th [from sunset] to May 12th.
Avoid the 3 weeks leading up to and including Tisha B’av: July 8th 2020 (from sunset) to July 30th 2020. Jewish marriages are not allowed during the period of three weeks leading up and including to the Fast of Tisha B’av.
Avoid Rosh Hashana: September 18th (from sunset) to September 20th 2020
Avoid Yom Kippur: September 27th (from sunset) to September 28th 2020
Avoid Succot: October 2nd (from sunset) to October 9th 2020
Avoid Simchat Torah: October 10th (from sunset) to October 11th 2020
12 Month Wedding Planning Monthly Checklist
So now you are in the know about dates, let’s lay out the biggest tasks that need to be taken care of in chronological order. I’ve used a 12 month timeline as that’s the length of the average UK and USA engagement. It’s just a guide obviously – I myself only had 6 months to plan my wedding and others will have a lot longer.
9-12 months before the wedding
- Create a wedding folder and a Pinterest board and start collating ideas for the style of your wedding that appeals to you.
- Determine your budget and work out how expenses will be divided.
- Reserve a date (see Jewish wedding dates to avoid at the bottom of the post) and send out a save the date. This could be beautifully designed card or e-card and set the tone for your event, or it could be a simple beautifully worded email.
- Start to envision your ceremony. Do you want it to be long and symbolic or short and sweet? Do you want to include all the traditions or just a select few?
- If you have a particular rabbi in mind, book him or her once you’ve decided on a date. If you haven’t got one in mind, find a rabbi or officiant who suits your style and spirit.
- Start a guest list and work out an idea of the number of guests you’ll have as this will generate the most accurate cost estimates.
- Brainstorm ceremony and reception ideas and book a venue.
- Decide on whether you want a wedding planner, and if you do, hire one.
- Research photographers, videographers and entertainment. The really good ones can get booked up early so be sure to commit when you find a supplier you love.
- Ensure that any band or DJ you book plays Jewish wedding music.
- Research caterers and decide if it’s important for you to have a kosher menu or a non-meat ‘Jewish friendly’ ‘inoffensive’ menu.
- Start thinking about your wedding dress and enjoy the experience of shopping and finding your dress!
Image by Allister Freeman Photography
Finding a venue for a London wedding can be a complete minefield. There are so many generic venues out there that will ‘do the job’, but if you’re looking for something truly awe-inspiring, versatile and sophisticated, then I would enthusiastically recommend RSA House.
RSA House offers a huge assortment of breathtaking spaces for an unforgettable wedding celebration in the heart of the capital. From the chuppah ceremony to the reception, to a post-wedding brunch, they create truly special customised events that rival all other London wedding venues.
Your venue will set the tone for your entire wedding, so it’s important to find a place that you love, and fits your style. As one of London’s most exciting wedding venues, RSA House would love to show you around on Saturday 17th January 2015 on a personal tour at their exclusive VIP Open Day, so that you can see for yourself what makes their venue so exceptional.
Clockwise from top left: Martin Beddall, Allister Freeman, Allister Freeman, David Pullum, Allister Freeman, Allister Freeman, Julie Kim, Jessica Alexander, Allister Freeman, Richard Ford, Allister Freeman, Julie Kim
Weddings by the sea are my absolute favourite, so I’m a little bit obsessed with today’s gorgeous French Riviera Jewish wedding coming to you from the über-glamorous Cap Ferrat – a quite breathtaking part of the world that I was fortunate enough to visit last summer.
When STG regular, Polly Alexandre revealed the sneak peak to me, I just knew that Renata and Jonathan’s three day wedding extravaganza would be seriously fun to blog. This gorgeous destination wedding has more than a touch of class about it and I thought it would make for the perfect pick-me-up in the first week of January. Thoroughly elegant and sophisticated, the flowers in particular are unbelievably dreamy, with lots of beautiful pink and white peonies, roses and hydrangea. I’m also loving the sweetheart table, the macaroon pyramid, the suite of ‘magnificent garden’ themed stationery (complete with flower seed sachets!), and the jaw-dropping ceremony backdrop.
It’s quite the fashion fest too. I love the classiness of an outdoor black tie wedding, and Jonathan’s Tom Ford tuxedo is an absolute showstopper. Renata chose a Monique Lhuillier gown paired with Manolo Blahnik shoes, and then changed into a bespoke Femmes Fatales dress by Ella Tatarinova for the evening. I told you it was a fashion frenzy!
How we met
In the words of Polly Alexandre, their photographer, Renata and Johnny’s love story involves two jetskis, two cities, one sea urchin, 40 spikes and a hospital.
Polly Alexandre, “This may seem like an unusual story and it’s definitely one of the most original I have heard for sure, but like all good fairytales it has a happy ending. The couple met on a group holiday in Kenya where Johnny persuaded Renata to come out on a jetski ride with him. However Johnny *may or may not* have gone a little bit fast and consequently Renata was thrown from the jetski into the shallow waters. She stepped on the seabed to catch her footing and “ouch!” immediately trod on a sea urchin that immediately shed over 40 spikes into her foot. So it was off to hospital to have them removed.”
“Feeling slightly responsible for her fate, Johnny arranged to take Renata for dinner in London a few weeks later, by way of apology. Except that this was a little more than an apology as rumour has it Johnny actually booked several restaurants for this rather special date…… finally opting for dinner at Daphne’s. The connection was immediate and soon blossomed into a beautiful romance. Despite living in different countries, the couple took it in turns to fly to each other for the weekend so they could be reunited each week.”